What do we tend to remember the most after a separation or a divorce?
The realtionship between a man and a woman is perhaps the most joyous union of all.
But when it all ends for any reason whatsoever what do we remember the good or the bad times?
Personally i couldnt bear to live without my lady so i went back to her and told her she belonged in my arms nowhere else.
She is back and dear god the world is not enough for me!!!
What about you?
Kami i'am very sorry to hear about this but life goes on and i'am sure you will meet a deserving man soon.
Shortstuff she is special all right and much more.Guess i realized my stupid mistake and talked to her in the nick of time .Thank heavens!!!
Keith my dear mate i apologize if i you have been hurt trying to remember the past.But your point has been noted and will be taken up later in gender relations in future.
Meanwhile mate fight back and reclaim your rights as father to the children dont give up mate because if you do then it will become an all to common a precedent.
Move on mate a better woman more deserving of you awaits just round the corner!!!!
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We tend to remember the bad times because that’s what led to the divorce. You’re a very lucky man to have had the special lady in your life take you back.
OMG this is such a ruff one, me and my x-wife didn’t get along, she was overbearing and i was stubborn. She one day decided she didn’t love me any more and asked me to move out. i did with out argument cause i was tired and didn’t want to fight any more and well what do you do when told that any ways? We was suppose to be talking about it when i come over to watch the kids for her but with in a week she tells me i should date other wemon. turns out that one of the people she was cleaning house for set her up with a family member of his, they was seeing one another. i found out and went over to what was my house to to meet this guy, mind you my kid was there and i was a gentlemen about it and left. so that spelled the end for sure so divorce proceeded. i lost every thing, had to pay her for the house which she emptied out, lost the kid and lost my wife. well what do you thank id fill cause it was not only the bad times? i fell apart and secluded my self for a long time that’s what happened. what did i learn from this? well I’m hopping that i can spot any trouble sooner and maybe try to cause it to change but if not i suppose then id have to say iv learned nothing……………… thanks for the thought, and yes i am working on a new relastionship now with a wonderful women, she is nothing like my x-wife, fact is she is almost to good to be true lol. i am learning to have trust again and that is so inportant.
Until the hurt and resentment is gone, we remember most those things we dislike about an ex-spouse. When those are no longer an issue, we are ready for a new relationship…not until. Eventually, as with all things, we move on. Occasionally we make the same mistakes twice. But life is a learning experience and there are always other opportunities.
For the first 5 years I remembered that I made such awful choices and allowed so much to go unchecked. Then, I realized that there was a reason I got married and those reasons were something I really missed.
a) I liked having a second opinion when shopping for something expensive (furniture for example)
b) I liked not having to wake up alone if there was a scary noise at night.
c) I like cooking for someone else
d) Travel was much more exciting when there is a very special person to share it with.
This list can go on and on
It took 10 years to find someone that wanted a relationship and not just a romp. I’m a very lucky woman and I never let him forget it!
I am not married but your answers are inspirational.
Thank you so much for sharing your expewrience. IO hope that your life be the most pleasant and rewarding.
It depends how the separation came about.
My ex cheated on me. Therefore, there is no going back in my book.
I remembered the type of person he was, how I ended up with him and all that enticed me up until the moment. Basically, I reminisced over the mistakes I made and the red flags I missed. I realized it was a relationship that never should have been. Subsequently, it is a lesson learned and nothing regretted.