How many of you had what YOU consider a fair divorce settlement?
My Ex did not try to milk me dry. We were married for 14 years, both of us worked, and we only needed a lawyer to draw up the legal papers. ($400) We were both aware that only the lawyers win when there is a dispute that needs to go to court for years.
How many of you did not fight over posessions in a divorce, including money, and came to an agreement without having to go to court? How long were you married?
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I was married for 9 years we sat down and went through everything. He kept his 401K and I got primary of our son. No court just a lawyer to fill out papers. That has been 6 years now we still dont fight he has our son (our sons choice) and everything is good for our child.
yes, 10 years settled on our own so we didnt make the attorneys rich and plus alot less stress on me
I haven’t been through a divorce but my BF just got his finalized. I don’t think it was totally fair but it wasn’t my divorce.
My BF has primary physical custody and they share legal custody of their son. He let her off the 3 years of back owed child support (she was SUPPOSED to pay court costs). He spent over $3000 over 10 months. Mostly sending her 2 or more copies of paperwork, she kept moving and wouldn’t get them. She never had a lawyer, so BF had to pay for her paperwork and the phone calls she made to HIS lawyer!
They were married almost 6 years, but were only together 6-8 months after they got married.
My wife wants a devorce as she feels that I have lost to much money on a joint venture we both took. She wants every thing we own [house,flat,3 cars,all furniture and cash]. I told her she can have every thing except the art I have collected. I also told her to draw up the contract because I dont want to spend thousands on lawyers fees and so on. She recons I am a cheap skate and wants to punish me for it. I warned her lawyers can end up with every thing. No matter what she needs to punish me and she knows I hate wasting money so be it. I told her I love her as the mother of my kids and she should realy think about what she wants out of this. End of the day I will still be the top earner and the kids will still love me.
I did not fight, even with children it only cost me 650.00. As I knew he’d give up without a fight. I let him have it all. I took the kids. He even got the only car we had.
However; 3 years later, he’s now served me with papers trying to gain full custody of our children. I’ve now had to spend a minimum 2500.00 to start this process and he’s had to spend the same I’m sure.
That all said..I wish I had to do it to begin with, because now my children are older and know what is going on. Its rougher on them now.
We were married 5 years.