Comments on: How come generally women get everything when it comes to divorce, child custody, and child support? http://divorce-settlement.net/how-come-generally-women-get-everything-when-it-comes-to-divorce-child-custody-and-child-support Divorce Settlement News and Informations Wed, 10 Jun 2009 21:52:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: http://divorce-settlement.net/how-come-generally-women-get-everything-when-it-comes-to-divorce-child-custody-and-child-support/comment-page-1#comment-287 Thu, 21 May 2009 10:36:18 +0000 http://divorce-settlement.net/how-come-generally-women-get-everything-when-it-comes-to-divorce-child-custody-and-child-support#comment-287 ??? Because of men's poor prep, planning, and hiring the first attorney they talk to. I’ve been a Father’s Rights Advocate for 20 years. Many think the courts are rigged against dads, but in reality, it is more about attorneys unwilling or lacking the knowledge to truly fight for the father's rights. This is why it is important to learn how to interview and hire the right attorney. It is also important to do as much as possible on your own and not pay the attorney to do it. Also, learn how to make sure the judge is being balance is his decision by using Court Watch. Start keeping a daily journal of all your activities. The most common way to prevent a father from getting his rights through the courts is a false allegation, usually sexual. Over 60% of divorcing father are accused of child sexual abuse, of which only 4% are found to have any relevance, but there are no penalties for doing so. A daily journal is your number one piece of evidence in court and you can even refer to it while on the stand. Gather evidence. Check the site below to see if it is illegal to record conversations without the other person knowing. If your state does not have a law either way, than it defaults to the federal ruling which says one person in a conversation must know they are being recorded. You’re that one person. In Missouri it is specifically legal, in Kansas there is no mention either way. If you live in two different states, and one has a law against it, than it applies when the call originates from within that state, Now, you can't just record, you also have to transcribe it into the daily journal. If you want to learn how to do all this go to Dads House in Yahoo Groups. There's an educational manual in the file section that can teach you what you need to know. Take the time to learn what you can and should do. ???
Because of men’s poor prep, planning, and hiring the first attorney they talk to.

I’ve been a Father’s Rights Advocate for 20 years.

Many think the courts are rigged against dads, but in reality, it is more about attorneys unwilling or lacking the knowledge to truly fight for the father’s rights. This is why it is important to learn how to interview and hire the right attorney. It is also important to do as much as possible on your own and not pay the attorney to do it. Also, learn how to make sure the judge is being balance is his decision by using Court Watch.

Start keeping a daily journal of all your activities. The most common way to prevent a father from getting his rights through the courts is a false allegation, usually sexual. Over 60% of divorcing father are accused of child sexual abuse, of which only 4% are found to have any relevance, but there are no penalties for doing so. A daily journal is your number one piece of evidence in court and you can even refer to it while on the stand.

Gather evidence. Check the site below to see if it is illegal to record conversations without the other person knowing. If your state does not have a law either way, than it defaults to the federal ruling which says one person in a conversation must know they are being recorded. You’re that one person. In Missouri it is specifically legal, in Kansas there is no mention either way. If you live in two different states, and one has a law against it, than it applies when the call originates from within that state,

Now, you can’t just record, you also have to transcribe it into the daily journal.

If you want to learn how to do all this go to Dads House in Yahoo Groups. There’s an educational manual in the file section that can teach you what you need to know. Take the time to learn what you can and should do.

]]> By: Mood Swings http://divorce-settlement.net/how-come-generally-women-get-everything-when-it-comes-to-divorce-child-custody-and-child-support/comment-page-1#comment-286 Mood Swings Mon, 18 May 2009 13:19:01 +0000 http://divorce-settlement.net/how-come-generally-women-get-everything-when-it-comes-to-divorce-child-custody-and-child-support#comment-286 I'm a woman but I do agree with this question/statement. It does seem unfair that the mother automatically gets full custody of the children, and then of course child support. Its often a huge fight for the father to get full custody, they have to prove the mother is unfit which is not an easy task. For some reason the idea that the kids are naturally better off with their mother instead of their father is very common these days. When in fact, the judge should not always give full custody to the mother, he should order that both people get equal custody and that they each pay child support to each other. I’m a woman but I do agree with this question/statement. It does seem unfair that the mother automatically gets full custody of the children, and then of course child support. Its often a huge fight for the father to get full custody, they have to prove the mother is unfit which is not an easy task.
For some reason the idea that the kids are naturally better off with their mother instead of their father is very common these days. When in fact, the judge should not always give full custody to the mother, he should order that both people get equal custody and that they each pay child support to each other.

]]> By: You Can Stop Your Break Up, Divorce or Lovers Rejection http://divorce-settlement.net/how-come-generally-women-get-everything-when-it-comes-to-divorce-child-custody-and-child-support/comment-page-1#comment-285 You Can Stop Your Break Up, Divorce or Lovers Rejection Sun, 17 May 2009 18:04:58 +0000 http://divorce-settlement.net/how-come-generally-women-get-everything-when-it-comes-to-divorce-child-custody-and-child-support#comment-285 not all women get everything. I know someone who did not get the house or her husbands money or any of his business.she had it coming to her she was greedy. lol. i know that some men should have custody of the children and that they make better parents. My friend she pays child support. Some men are getting custody of the kids. i do not think that a husband or wife should touch each others retirement. that should be left alone. if a women decides to be a stay at home mom than oh well. i did not go after my ex's retirement i only got part of it cause he pissed the judge off. not all women get everything. I know someone who did not get the house or her husbands money or any of his business.she had it coming to her she was greedy. lol. i know that some men should have custody of the children and that they make better parents. My friend she pays child support. Some men are getting custody of the kids. i do not think that a husband or wife should touch each others retirement. that should be left alone. if a women decides to be a stay at home mom than oh well. i did not go after my ex’s retirement i only got part of it cause he pissed the judge off.

]]> By: 7 Secrets to Law School Admissions! http://divorce-settlement.net/how-come-generally-women-get-everything-when-it-comes-to-divorce-child-custody-and-child-support/comment-page-1#comment-284 7 Secrets to Law School Admissions! Sat, 16 May 2009 03:28:50 +0000 http://divorce-settlement.net/how-come-generally-women-get-everything-when-it-comes-to-divorce-child-custody-and-child-support#comment-284 Where is this occurring? Did this happen to you? My male clients do pretty well, especially if they can work it out in mediation instead of going to trial. When my male clients want joint parenting, they nearly always get it. In my state, child support is based on parenting time and the income of the mother and father. Pretty much set in stone. It is supposed to be in the best interests of the child, not the best interests of the woman or man. I have to tell you that in my own divorce, I did get everything. All the property (not much). All the debt (tons). All the child, all the time (best interests of the child, too). Very little child support. Where is this occurring? Did this happen to you?

My male clients do pretty well, especially if they can work it out in mediation instead of going to trial. When my male clients want joint parenting, they nearly always get it.

In my state, child support is based on parenting time and the income of the mother and father. Pretty much set in stone. It is supposed to be in the best interests of the child, not the best interests of the woman or man.

I have to tell you that in my own divorce, I did get everything. All the property (not much). All the debt (tons). All the child, all the time (best interests of the child, too). Very little child support.

]]> By: 7 Secrets to Law School Admissions! http://divorce-settlement.net/how-come-generally-women-get-everything-when-it-comes-to-divorce-child-custody-and-child-support/comment-page-1#comment-283 7 Secrets to Law School Admissions! Wed, 13 May 2009 11:11:28 +0000 http://divorce-settlement.net/how-come-generally-women-get-everything-when-it-comes-to-divorce-child-custody-and-child-support#comment-283 I am going to give an honest and uncatty answer here. I think it happens that way most often because most often it is the male that leaves the relationship. And the one to leave the relationship is generally the one who gets the short end of the stick. When my paretns divorced, my father got custody of us and my mother got that short end (so the other way around) because she was the one who left the relationship. It may seem unfair, but keep in mind that women are generally the ones primarily responsible for taking care of the children. The man brings home most of the money generally. Whoever has custody of any children needs help with those expenses because obviously, that cuts in on the amount of time they can be out of the house actually working. And as far as fair goes, how fair is it that two people get married, pledge themselves to each other and make a family and then one (typically but not always the male) ups and decides he "doesn't want to be married anymore" or finds a younger model and then leaves his partner with all the responsibility of raising the children and no help to do it. It isn't fair to her and it certainly isn't fair to the children. In many cases, 50/50 will work, but in some the guy or gal in question is just a deadbeat, all there is to it. And if daddy has custody, I am all for mommy having to pay child support too! I see it as going both ways. Sad that we have to force people to deal with their responsibilities, but I can't even tell you how many times I've seen these scenarios arise. EDIT: I just think we live in a too-permissive society where people feel like they don't have to face the consequences of their actions. Not all marriages work, and that's a fact, and not all daddies have to be pinned down to pay their child support. Many probably do and happily (or at least accepting) because they do love their children. Whatever feelings you have for your ex, try not to let it bleed over and eat into the love you have for your child(ren). They deserve the best shot to make a good life and that starts with their parents, together or not... GL I am going to give an honest and uncatty answer here. I think it happens that way most often because most often it is the male that leaves the relationship. And the one to leave the relationship is generally the one who gets the short end of the stick. When my paretns divorced, my father got custody of us and my mother got that short end (so the other way around) because she was the one who left the relationship. It may seem unfair, but keep in mind that women are generally the ones primarily responsible for taking care of the children. The man brings home most of the money generally. Whoever has custody of any children needs help with those expenses because obviously, that cuts in on the amount of time they can be out of the house actually working. And as far as fair goes, how fair is it that two people get married, pledge themselves to each other and make a family and then one (typically but not always the male) ups and decides he “doesn’t want to be married anymore” or finds a younger model and then leaves his partner with all the responsibility of raising the children and no help to do it. It isn’t fair to her and it certainly isn’t fair to the children. In many cases, 50/50 will work, but in some the guy or gal in question is just a deadbeat, all there is to it. And if daddy has custody, I am all for mommy having to pay child support too! I see it as going both ways. Sad that we have to force people to deal with their responsibilities, but I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve seen these scenarios arise.

EDIT: I just think we live in a too-permissive society where people feel like they don’t have to face the consequences of their actions. Not all marriages work, and that’s a fact, and not all daddies have to be pinned down to pay their child support. Many probably do and happily (or at least accepting) because they do love their children. Whatever feelings you have for your ex, try not to let it bleed over and eat into the love you have for your child(ren). They deserve the best shot to make a good life and that starts with their parents, together or not… GL

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